How I Learned To Let Go Of My Attachment Clothing
The other day I was taking a much needed Pinterest-daydream-break (does anyone else take those?!) when I pinned a look that made me feel slightly remorseful about letting go of an awesome tweed vintage blazer. The photo that jogged my memory was Isabelle Huppert coming out of the Chloe show (I believe) wearing a wide-lapelled blazer with a button up shirt and great flare jeans. Something that I would have totally put together … if I still had that blazer.
It’s hard to let go of clothes. Even if you haven’t worn them in awhile, times like those Pinterest-pangs of inspiration happen, and build up the fear of getting rid of something that you might actually wear again.
After having a sip of tea and really thinking about it though, I rationalized my consigning that vintage blazer (and subsequently all the other times I’ve let go of clothing), to this:
– It was in my closet so long, why wasn’t I wearing it? Every time I put it on, I put it back on the hanger because it didn’t feel like me. So chances are, despite the awesome Pinterest photo that provided inspiration, my future self would have still probably put it back on the hanger. No love lost.
– Yes, I may have missed out on the opportunity to wear a really cool outfit, but here’s the thing: my life isn’t that exciting. I rarely have the opportunity to wear a more “dressed” outfit of my own because my job requires me to wear whatever brand I’m representing, or more likely it requires clothes that can handle physical, unglamorous work (like kneeling on the floor with double sided tape hemming pants, steaming clothes, picking up hangers, general running around and schlepping, and or, writing from my desk at home alone – so not glam.) All that to say; for the amount of clothes I own and the opportunities I have to actually wear that blazer? I think I can come up with something else just as good. This of course, doesn’t apply to people who need to look polished for a nine to five – I totally feel your pain to come up with cool stuff and maybe I’ll dedicate some blog posts to re-inventing what you have so you can stop feeling the need to keep up. Would you read it!? Feedback’s a gift. Thanks.
– And I’m going to digress here a bit; my point above also applies to having anxiety during shopping and missing out on an amazing find or a great sale – what helps me get over “missing out” is this: there will ALWAYS be more. Designers come out with new collections every season. That means, every season, there will be another opportunity for you to be wowed and awed by a beautiful garment or accessory. This is the beauty, and the curse of fashion. Although I see it as pretty amazing, knowing that there is always more to discover. It is not end of the world if you miss something you donated or didn’t buy the “perfect” dress or the most amazing coat. This is not the fucking Hunger Games people, you will survive.
– In the case of vintage or thrifting; it can be harder to let go, because chances are that piece was unique and special. But if you’re not wearing it, or if someone else nabs that awesome vintage Hermes before you do, then it just wasn’t meant to be. The fashion universe has something better in store. Are you healthy? Are you loved? Do you still have a closet full clothes waiting for you at home? Great. All is well. Move on.
That being said, there are certain pieces that can bring joy and happiness simply by hanging onto them. I think there’s a fine line between keeping or purchasing items out of fear than out of emotion. If there’s an old rock concert tee that brings back awesome memories of a night of fun and debauchery, then that’s totally something worth hanging on to. I hope this helps a little – expletives and all.
Thanks as always for reading, and thank you Dominique at Style Domination for the photo! XO